Guest Post: Writing And Courage

by Cat Rambo

Cat RamboTo talk about this, I need to talk about the scariest thing that ever happened to me. Bear with me.

In 1999, I was driving on the New Jersey Turnpike. The car behind me tapped my bumper, sending me fishtailing across several lanes, and under a trailer truck, which sheared the roof off the car. I got out of the emergency room with a lot of stitches in my scalp, but otherwise unharmed, and then had to get home to Brooklyn, which was an adventure in and of itself.

Honestly, I don’t remember a lot of it. I recall thinking this was it, and wondering how much dying would hurt, in what seems in retrospect a surprisingly calm moment.

Since then, I’ve had trouble driving. I have panic attacks on the highway and even as a passenger, trucks pulling up alongside send my heart rate up. It took me a long time to realize this was affecting my life. It took me even longer to admit to myself I had PTSD and needed to work on it. It was very weird for me to realize that I couldn’t just think my way out of a panic attack.

So this summer I’ve been driving in when volunteering in the Clarion West classroom. It’s not a bad drive, but it takes me on a highway, and across the 520 bridge, which was way outside my comfort zone at the summer’s beginning. Now it’s a lot more endurable, but still scary, and I don’t know that I’ll ever get to a point where I feel comfortable on the terrifying part of I-5. It wasn’t pleasant when I started, and it’s still not pleasant. But I pushed myself, because I didn’t want fear to make my life smaller.

By the same token, we need to not let fear circumscribe our writing. We need to write about things that obsess and confuse and frighten us to the point of nausea. We need to tell stories about the things that scare us, and what we do when we’re scared. Because this is how we confront and transform the abysmal moments in our lives. We are the laboratories in which our stories brew and bubble, and the ones distilled from our pain will be better than the ones imported from outside sources.

You can write anything in fiction. Go for it. No one knows where your life ends and the fictioneering begins, so use the material life gives you freely, gleefully, fully. Face the themes that terrify you and write your fears out without worrying about who will read them. It may not solve them, it may not make them any less scary, but at least you’re using them. And your stories will be so much the better for it.

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Cat Rambo’s third short story collection, Near + Far, appears this fall from Hydra House. Find links to her fiction as well as upcoming classes on her website, http://www.kittywumpus.net. Her most recent publication is a short story collection for Kindle and other e-readers.

8 Responses

  1. Paula Helm Murray

    Thank you. i’m needing this kind of encouragement right now for many reasons, and my writing is not the least of them.

  2. Elizabeth Moon

    Exactly right, Cat. And though we don’t all have the same fears, we all know that sinking feeling about *something*.

  3. Beth Cato

    Thank you. This resonates with me. As a teenager, I didn’t learn to drive because of severe phobias. I also gave up on my writing. It was only in my late 20s that I acquired a driver’s license (though I still avoid city traffic and night driving) and started writing and submitting. I don’t think it’s a coincidence those things happened at the same time.

  4. Cat Rambo

    Thanks folks — I’m happy that it resonates with people. I was listening to Chuck Palahniuk read last night and realized one of the factors that makes his stories great is how unflinchingly he faces horrible things. Really inspirational, particularly when he talked about how autobiographical his writing is.